Do you guys hide the true cost of purchases from your better halves?

[Chuck E Ducky]

I feel like my wife has harder time about the amount of time I spend on my hobbies then the money. But I work hard so I can play hard. She has learned to except the fact Sunday is my day.

[Grendel]

No overt hiding but I also do not volunteer the information, this is my money I use. I do not use money earmarked for "family" for my hobbies. Actually a lot of my "mad money" gets used for "family" expenditures vs. what it was budgeted for, like emergency surgery on my daughters dog vs. the body work I had been saving for on my truck, or wife's continuing education costs vs. the table saw I had been saving for....etc. No guilt here on my paintball expenditures but then again I will not invite questions either.

[Tracker]

nothing egregious, but i do tend to "round down" a little at times, 150 max

i have earned her trust though, when i say "when i sell this, i will break even". i have proven that to her a couple times, so at this point she doesn't ask many questions

[KingxSlinky666]

No, I just use a PayPal account she knows nothing about...

[bored383]

nope! we are honest with each other on such things

[Cyberpyr8]

It's more of a don't ask - don't tell policy. She buys stuff all the time too so we really don't care what we are buying as long as everything is paid for and we have money in the bank it's fine. Like Chucky said, for me it's more about the time spent.

There was a point where I was buying a lot of gear and reselling it so she stopped caring about the stuff coming in. At this point I'm holding on to most of my stuff. If she asked me I would tell her honestly but she knows it isn't cheap either.

Edit: but if she asks me how much my son spent on his last gun, I might have to pad the number some. He spent a lot on that one but he has a job and is paying me back for it. But she would kill us both if she knew how much.

[coyote]

No.

The caveats to that answer, we have yours, mine, and our money. Our money doesn't go to hobby spending.

Also, I have not paid out of pocket for paintball in 10 plus years.

[ATBen]

If she asks, I divide by 2.

[Hector the Collector]

To answer the question, NO, I don’t hide the cost of purchases, of any sort. I’ve been married for 35 years and it’s always been best to be upfront and honest, with my significant other. She’s always been pretty cool about letting me buy stuff, so there’s never been any reason, to keep anything from her. Honesty goes a long way! :-)

[Knuckle Dragger]

My lady only makes fun of me for buying “toys.” She doesn’t really care other than my work station getting cluttered or the pile of projects. She doesn’t ask about what I spend anymore, but she knows how expensive it can be. But I’ll tell her if she asks.

[autococker04]

Weve both used mint to track all our individual financials for years, and recently got married so we made a joint account. So really there’s no hiding it and no real reason to because she wouldn’t be mad either way. However, PayPal is unlinked and I B/S/T like a fiend with the money that was in there, and typically it goes up enough that I play for free, so paintball is a net zero hobby for me.

[Axel]

It's certainly not hidden or lied about, but if my wife has ever asked me about the cost of a gun, I don't remember. If so, it wouldn't be a significant event. We have an understanding of who pays what bills and funds each account, and will strategize and reevaluate the plans occasionally, but beyond that we don't monitor each others' expenses.

I love finances, while she hates it. So, as long as the debts go down and the assets go up I'm happy, and as long as she doesn't have to manage any of that junk, she's happy. It's a nice dynamic, and it works because neither one of us makes horrible choices like secretly racking up $20k in credit card debt or what have you. It also probably helps that I'm not buying Desert Ducks and DC2s

[William the Third]

I don't have to tell her anything, she already knows as she is the one who purchases everything.




















Mind you, my wife is my right hand... so...

[Sdawg]

I don’t think she even knows how to log on to our bank, so...

[chrislognshot]

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